“Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime” 
Monday, August 17, 2009 at 7:26PM
Heather Hardison

Over the years I have been so bad about letting my husband do things for me like fix my computer, figure out certain software programs and fixing things around the house. It just seems so much easier since he can figure anything out. Well, lately I’m asking him to sit down and show me how to do some of these things for myself. I know he thinks it would still be easier and quicker just to do it himself but I’m trying to challenge myself to be more independent. Accomplishing tasks on your own improves self confidence and self esteem. Depending on others becomes a crutch and can be very limiting. What if the person you depend on is no longer there or what if they are not available when a need comes up. You would have to put these tasks on hold or never accomplish them, which can be quite frustrating. Think how empowering it would feel to take that control back into your own hands. Clients often, when in distress, express a need to have things handed to them in order to get relief fast. Many even want a pill to take care of the problem. When this occurs I think of the quote above. I teach them coping skills to help them take their power back, and this way they have those skills available to them in the future to deal with various other obstacles that will surely come their way. I challenge you to expand your own skill set and knowledge base today. When this opportunity comes your way just ask yourself “Is this something that I am capable of doing with a little bit of effort and time on my part?” If so, why not try to master a new skill and see how different this feels compared to asking or expecting someone else to step in and do it for you. From my experience, I can tell you it feels great to be self reliant!


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