"You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face... The danger lies in refusing to face the fear, in not daring to come to grips with it... You must make yourself succeed every time. You must do the thing you think you cannot do." - Eleanor Roosevelt
Dr. Heather Hardison is a Clinical Psychologist in private practice in Collierville, TN. Dr. Hardison provides a wide array of psychological services to clients in the Greater Memphis area. For a full description of the services she provides, select the "Services" link above.
Dr. Hardison's approach to therapy:
"First and foremost, I want to understand my clients' issues from their own perspective. Only then can I apply my knowledge and experience to their specific problems. I really think the following brief story illustrates this approach:
A man (or woman) is in a deep pit with steep slippery sides and he's struggling to get out. Along comes a doctor and the man yells up, "Hey Doc, can you help me, I'm stuck in this hole?" The doctor writes out a prescription, tosses it into the hole and walks on. A bit later a priest comes by and the man yells up, "Hey, can you help me, I'm stuck in this hole?" The priest writes him a prayer, tosses it into the hole and walks on. Later on his Mentor comes by and the man yells up, "Boy am I glad to see you! Can you help me, I'm stuck in this hole?" Upon hearing the man, the Mentor jumps down into the hole. The man looks at his Mentor and says, "What the hell did you do that for, now we're both stuck down here?" The Mentor says, "I know, but I've been down here before and I know a way out."
The thing I like about this story is that it illustrates the fact that every problem cannot be addressed using the same approach. Although the doctor and the priest were likely able to solve the majority of the problems they were presented with by writing a prescription or a prayer, had they truly considered the man's perspective, it would have been clear that their standard approach was of no help in his situation. The Mentor could have merely shouted instructions to the man and been on his way, but by placing himself in the same peril, he was able to comfort and encourage the man as he stood by his side while they found their way out of the hole together.
Much like the Mentor, I crawl through the trenches, side by side with my clients as we construct a resolution tailored to their needs. I promise you will not be alone in your struggles."